North Columbus News

This week, a recurring theme has emerged in my coaching practice and personal interactions: the ability to comfortably say "no" and the perceived consequences of doing so.

Many people experience discomfort when saying no. This can stem from not wanting to upset others or be disliked, or feeling obligated to comply with requests. Often, when we do say no, it is accompanied by extensive justifications. But why?

When faced with a situation that prompts a "no," can you express it without providing numerous reasons? Aim for a clean "no." Consider a scenario where you are certain of your refusal. For instance, imagine you're enjoying an evening with your family, and someone blows cigarette smoke in your faces. You wouldn't stand there inhaling second-hand smoke; you'd either tell the person to stop or walk away without explaining all the reasons for your objection.

When something is a no for you, let it be just that. If asked to do something you don't want to do, simply respond with, "Thank you for thinking of me, but right now that doesn’t work." It's appropriate to say no if that's how you feel.

Notice when you're saying yes when it's truly a no. And if you do say no, avoid endless rationalizations—it's unnecessary. Are you willing to experiment with this? If you find yourself answering "no," just move on.

Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company primarily working with REALTORS who aspire to work and live more inspired lives. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati and serves on the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors.

Contact Marilou Butcher Roth for coaching inquiries.